Fat is NOT a 4-letter word

I want to address the negative comments we’ve gotten here.  This site is NOT about hating ourselves or hatin’ on Black women or the overweight.  It takes too much energy to go negative.  The title sounds negative because of the negative connotations of the word FAT – but that’s all it is, other people’s bad associations with the word.  We’ve embraced the fact that we are OBESE – not a little chunky, not on a journey to be emaciated – we really are unhealthily FAT and we need to lose weight. 

Fat is not a 4-letter word people.  If you feel more comfortable saying overweight, feel free. For Trice and me, we’re most comfortable joking and laughing about the work we need to do while going about the rather serious task of becoming more healthy. I’ll be perfectly honest, this blog is not for the weak at heart. We get pretty blunt and sometimes a little mean, but it’s all with love. The great thing about the Internet is that there are places for more sensitive folks and then there’s places for us hard asses. So…

My sister and I created this site because we were and still are fat and Black and ready to lose weight (and hopefully not our minds in the process). Fortunately, my sister and I don’t sit around feeling sorry for ourselves and moping about our sizes.  On the contrary, we embraced our size a little too well.  In the past, we’ve bought clothes that made us feel better – ate more food – had a few more drinks and just basked in our overweightness in the name of pride.  It hasn’t gotten us very far on the positive side.  We have health concerns that were only brought on by our weight.

So we’re done being proud of our sizes and touting ‘big is beautiful’ because it’s just not healthy.  Now, hate on that all you like.  That’s your choice and your wasted energy.  I’ll use my energy to join a new aerobics class. 


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Posted by on June 29, 2009 in Fat Myia


It’s been a long time…I shouldn’t have left you

It’s been a year since I’ve blogged, and in that time I’ve done nothing but gain more weight.  Don’t get me wrong, I had fun putting some of it on – but now I’m ready to make some fun of taking it off. 

I’ve got tons of excuses as to why I’ve gained tons of weight.  I was unhappy with work, I have 2 hurting herniated discs in my neck,  I have this problem and that problem and so on.  The biggest and most truthful reason is that I just like to eat and drink and it feels good doing both.

Well, I’ve got all the baggage of a year of weight gain and a long list of complications that my soaring weight gain has created.  But the buck has to stop here.  I have to make serious changes in my life – LIFE CHANGES – not a diet, not a quick fix, a real change.  (It’s gonna feel real good.  Gonna make a difference.  Gonna make it right-i-i-ight…a little tribute to Mike).

Today starts the rest of my life.  It’s going to be hard – but I have to lose 75lbs.  I hope to catelogue it all right here on Fat, Black & Losin’ It.  All the fun, foibles, folley and fatisms…

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Posted by on June 29, 2009 in Fat Myia, Uncategorized


“Progress, Not Perfection”

I saw this quote on the wall at Jenny Craig tonight.  I needed it like a Baptist preacher needs a dry rag on an August Sunday morning.  Progress, not perfection.  I was so down when I got on the scale today at The Craig.  I lost the weight I gained while I was layed up with my bad neck.  I got down to 183 lbs – that’s 17 lbs less than I weighed when we started this blog.  I was SO down.  I felt like I had sacrificed so much in the last 3 weeks trying to follow my Action Plan for such little loss.  My first thought was bacon cheeseburger, my second thought was Godiva.  Luckily, my third thought was “progress, not perfection.”

We have to remember to savor the little things.  “Every day on the plan is a win,” that’s another quote from The Craig.  But it’s true.  Little things mean a lot.  The big chunks of weight loss don’t happen every week.  Sometimes, progress is about drinking all your daily water, not having that bag of M&Ms, working out when you really just don’t feel like it.

Today my big win was fighting off a case of the “I really wanted to lose more weight blues.”  It hurt so badly not to have lost more.  But, there we go again…the measure of progress is subjective. 

Think of your daily “wins.”  What does progress mean to you?  What have you accomplished?  What new ways of keeping on track have you discovered and stuck to?  I’d like to hear from you.

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Posted by on September 17, 2008 in Fat Myia


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Word To The Wise – FIber can be deadly

I’ve been doing well on my low calorie, low fat, high fiber diet.  Especially the high fiber part.  If you look at the lable on most 100 calorie snacks, low calorie bread, these really delicious Fiber One bars that I eat 2 of every day, and just about everything Jenny Craig has to offer, you’ll see the fiber counts are off the radar.  The ‘recommended daily allowance of fiber’ for a woman in her 20’s – 30’s is 24g a day.  Most days I have 30g or more – those dang FIber One bars are 35% of my recommended daily fiber and my favorite Jenny C cereals range from 30 – 50% of my recommended intake.  By the time I add a salad, side of veggies, fruit and anything else for the day, I’m off the chart.

One would think this would be great for the fat girl – eat, crap, less fat…Not so much.  Too much fiber can cause bloating, gas and dry, compact stool.  Sounds like TMI, but I’m really trying to warn ya’ll.  Fiber is an amazing nutrient – but it has to be used correctly.  When you add fiber to your diet – don’t forget to add more water!  I woke up at 6 this morning with “the jimmy-leg” and a serious set of stomach cramps.  (Don’t pretend you don’t know about the jimmy-leg: when you have to crap so badly that your leg starts shaking like you just ran a 20-mile race.) – Well that’s how I started my day.  One problem – I didn’t drink enough yesterday so there was a dustbowl brewing in my booty.  It didn’t feel good at all :( But the upside is that when I finally “went,” I probably “purged” all of my unused food from the day before.  A very nice, weight-reducing effect of fiber.

The moral of the story is: use fiber and the right mix of water and you can crap your way to faster weight loss.  Just know what you’re doing.

Here are a few Fiber Facts from the Mayo Clinic:

Benefits of a high-fiber diet

A high-fiber diet has many benefits, which include:

  • Prevents constipation. Dietary fiber increases the weight and size of your stool and softens it. A bulky stool is easier to pass, decreasing your chance of constipation. If you have loose, watery stools, fiber may also help to solidify the stool because it absorbs water and adds bulk to stool.
  • Lowers your risk of digestive conditions. A high-fiber diet may lower your risk of specific disorders, such as hemorrhoids, irritable bowel syndrome and the development of small pouches in your colon (diverticular disease).
  • Lowers blood cholesterol levels. Soluble fiber found in beans, oats, flaxseed and oat bran may help lower total blood cholesterol levels by lowering low-density lipoprotein, or “bad,” cholesterol levels.
  • Controls blood sugar levels. Fiber, particularly soluble fiber, can slow the absorption of sugar, which for people with diabetes, can help improve blood sugar levels. A high-fiber diet may also reduce the risk of developing type 2 diabetes.
  • Aids in weight loss. High-fiber foods generally require more chewing time, which gives your body time to register when you’re no longer hungry, so you’re less likely to overeat. Also, a high-fiber diet tends to make a meal feel larger and linger longer, so you stay full for a greater amount of time. And high-fiber diets also tend to be less “energy dense,” which means they have fewer calories for the same volume of food.

Posted by on September 9, 2008 in Fat Myia


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No Review Today-I’m Sick!

I”m sorry ya’ll, but my f*cking tooth is f*cking killing me! I am not in the mood. I’m sure you can understand. I’m going to self-medicate and hit the hay. I’ll try to post tomorrow. Damn M&Ms!!!!!

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Posted by on September 9, 2008 in Fat Trice


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Re Re-Evaluation

Hey Fatties,

With Myia’s latest being said, tomorrow I’m going to do a product review of Fit Flops. Stay tuned…

By the way, I’m going to do a little whining here: Work sucks! I worked 6 damn days in a row, and I’m mentally exhausted. I’ve worked out only twice all of last week. I don’t really feel guilty about not working out. I feel most guilty about the shit I shoved down my throat when I wasn’t working out. I don’t think I drank a glass of water all last week. The few sips I took to wash down the Advil count though, right? Do the chopped onion and relish I had on my half smoke count as veggies? How about the dozens of 20+ pound boxes I helped move at work counting as strength training? Throw me a bone people! Like Angie Bassett said in Waiting To Exhale: “Hell, I worked my ass off…..”

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Posted by on September 8, 2008 in Fat Trice


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I’ve been looking at a lot of blogs lately and taking stock.  I think Trice and I can make some improvements here.  We’re going to get on a regular posting schedule and try to come up with a few categories for posts.  Ex: 2 Fatfirmations each week, Recipe of the Week, Product Reviews, Weekly Whine (rants about how hard it is to lose weight), Shut Up “I’m Bitching” (different from the whines these are complaints about being fat the bad things happen because of it – wearring out a pair of jeans, breaking shoes, etc).

More to come…



Posted by on September 8, 2008 in Fat Myia


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